Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts

Saturday, July 25, 2009

兰思:交友好比飞不回来的BOOMERANG


 


你有玩过 BOOMERANG 迴旋鏢?

你晓得每次丢出去的 BOOMERANG,它总会返回原处让你接的吗?

你知道如果每次你丢出去的是一个无法盘旋回来的 BOOMERANG,你的心情会是如何?

是丢的方式错了?还是力道不足或过火了,使到飞出去的BOOMERANG,无法自动地盘旋回让你接?

交友好比玩BOOMERANG ,至少是我自己的状况,不是我一厢情愿把人家当朋友,别人就理所当然地一定地成为朋友的。这方面,我不晓得是我那里做错了,又或者是我做得不够,以至人家没感觉到诚意,又或者是我做得过火了,导致人家厌烦退步三尺?

我真的不知该怎样着手来经营这份所谓的“友情”(如果还算是的话),还是我根本一开始就彻底的失败了。



朋友。。。
不一定合情合理,但一定知心知意;
不一定形影不离,但一定心心相惜;
不一定锦上添花,但一定雪中送炭;
不一定常常联络,但总会放在心上!

曾读过有位作家汤姆·拉思的文章,他认为以下八种朋友是一生中必不可少的。

而你已拥有了哪几种了呢?

无论如何,即使你只拥有其中的一种,你也是比我幸福的。。。

因这一生我还不确定我是不是有了这些朋友,还是还在寻找中。。。


一。成就你的朋友:
他们会不断激励你,让你看到自己的优点。

 
这类朋友也可称之为导师型。他们不一定是你的师长,但他们一定会在某些领域具有丰富的经验,能经常在事业、家庭、人际交往等各方面给你提供许多建议。人生中拥有这种朋友会成为你最大的心理支柱,也常常会成为能够“左右”你的“偶像”。

二。支持你的朋友:

一直维护你,并在别人面前称赞你。

这类朋友可谓是“你帮我,我帮你”,相互打气,使得彼此多成为对方成长的垫脚石。在一个人的成长过程中,朋友的支持与鼓励是最珍贵的。当你遇到挫折时,这类朋友往往可以帮你分担一部分的心理压力,他们的信任也恰恰是你的“强心剂”。

三。志同道合的朋友:

和你兴趣相近,也是你最有可能与之相处的人。

与他们在一起,会让你有心灵感应,俗称“默契”。你会因为想的事、说的话都与他们相近,经常有被触摸心灵的感觉。和他们交往会帮助你不断地进行自我认同,你的兴趣、人生目标或是喜好,都可以与他们分享。这种稳固的感受“共享”会让你获得心理上的安全感,因为有他们,你更容易实现理想,并可以快乐地成长。

四。牵线搭桥的朋友:
认识你之后,很快把你介绍给志同道合者认识。


这类朋友是“帮助型”的朋友。在你得意的时候,他们的身影可能并不多见;在你失意的时候,他们却会及时地出现在你面前。他们始终愿意给予你最现实的支持,让你看到希望和机会,帮助你不断地得到积极的心理暗示。

五。给你打气的朋友:

好玩、能让你放松的朋友。

有些朋友,当我们有了心事,有了苦恼时,第一个想要倾诉的对象就是他们。这样的朋友会是很好的倾听者,让你放松,在他们面前,你没有任何心理压力,总能让你发泄出自己的“郁闷”,让你重获平衡的心态。

六。开阔眼界的朋友:

能让你接触新观点、新机会。

这类朋友对于人生也是必不可少。他们可谓是你的“大百科全书”。这类朋友的知识广、视野宽、人际脉络多,会帮助你获得许多不同的心理感受,使你成为站得高、看得远的人。

七。给你引路的朋友:

善于帮你理清思路,需要指导和建议时去找他们。

这类朋友是“指路灯”。每个人都有困难和需要,一旦靠自己力量难以化解时,这类朋友能最及时、最认真地考虑你的问题,给你最适当的建议。在你面对选择而焦虑、困惑时,不妨找他们聊一聊,或许能帮助你更好的理顺情绪,了解自己,明确方向。

八.陪伴你的朋友:

有了消息,不论是好是坏,总是第一个告诉他们。他们一直和你在一起。

这种朋友的心胸像大海、高山一样宽广,不管何时找他们,他们都会热情相待,并且始终如一地支持你。他们是能让你感到满足和平静的朋友,有时并不需要他们太多的语言,只是默默地陪着你,就能抚平你的心情。


 




兰思:放下。执著


最近听于玲的节目做测试,都相当的准确。的确,我是个有原则的人,凡事要求达到十全十美,对于负责任的态度也较一般人来得强硬些,有些顽固。而且,原来还是一个性情中人,任何事感动都会痛哭流涕。也一个很怕寂寞的人,一旦寂寞,悲伤的情绪就会涌上来,一个人独处发呆。

从小还以为对某件事抱着执著的心态,坚持自己的信念是好的。。。但随着年龄增长,却反而要学会如何放下执著,将自己抽离出来,找回原来的自己,这是不是很矛盾?

这个世间,所有一切的人与事,全都是虚假的,不是真的。特别是人与人之间的相处,我对人家好,一心一意把人家当朋友,人家并不以为然,根本并不把我当朋友看待,也许被人家蒙在鼓里看不起,还不晓得地沾沾自喜,这一切我没一丝的怨意,所以没有什么好执着的,还是学会一个人独处,学会孤独,静下心来,走进自己,了解自己的心。

我尝试走在阳光里,但我毕竟还是失败了,我想我还是属于黑夜的。黑暗是必然的,不变的,我再度拥抱它,回归宁静的夜晚,感觉自己的存在,听自己的心跳。。。

Friday, July 10, 2009

The Color of Friendship - 友谊的颜色



The Colour of Friendship

Once upon a time the colours of the world started to quarrel.
All claimed that they were the best.
The most important.
The most useful.
The favourite.

Green said:
"Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and of hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would die. Look over the countryside and you will see that I am in the majority."

Blue interrupted:
"You only think about the earth, but consider the sky and the sea. It is the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. The sky gives space and peace and serenity. Without my peace, you would all be nothing."

Yellow chuckled:
"You are all so serious. I bring laughter, gaiety, and warmth into the world. The sun is yellow, the moon is yellow, the stars are yellow. Every time you look at a sunflower, the whole world starts to smile. Without me there would be no fun."

Orange started next to blow her trumpet:
"I am the colour of health and strength. I may be scarce, but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. I carry the most important vitamins. Think of carrots, pumpkins, oranges, mangoes, and papayas. I don't hang around all the time, but when I fill the sky at sunrise or sunset, my beauty is so striking that no one gives another thought to any of you."

Red could stand it no longer he shouted out:
"I am the ruler of all of you. I am blood - life's blood! I am the colour of danger and of bravery. I am willing to fight for a cause. I bring fire into the blood. Without me, the earth would be as empty as the moon. I am the colour of passion and of love, the red rose, the poinsettia and the poppy."

Purple rose up to his full height:
He was very tall and spoke with great pomp: "I am the colour of royalty and power. Kings, chiefs, and bishops have always chosen me for I am the sign of authority and wisdom. People do not question me! They listen and obey."

Finally Indigo spoke, much more quietly than all the others, but with just as much determination:
"Think of me. I am the colour of silence. You hardly notice me, but without me you all become superficial. I represent thought and reflection, twilight and deep water. You need me for balance and contrast, for prayer and inner peace."

And so the colours went on boasting, each convinced of his or her own superiority. Their quarrelling became louder and louder. Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightening thunder rolled and boomed. Rain started to pour down relentlessly. The colours crouched down in fear, drawing close to one another for comfort.

In the midst of the clamour, rain began to speak:
"You foolish colours, fighting amongst yourselves, each trying to dominate the rest. Don't you know that you were each made for a special purpose, unique and different? Join hands with one another and come to me."

Doing as they were told, the colours united and joined hands.

The rain continued:
"From now on, when it rains, each of you will stretch across the sky in a great bow of colour as a reminder that you can all live in peace. The Rainbow is a sign of hope for tomorrow."

And so, whenever a good rain washes the world, and a Rainbow appears in the sky, let us remember to appreciate one another.


友谊的颜色
 
从前,世界上的各种颜色进行过一次争吵。

每一种颜色都说自己是最好的,
 最重要的,
 最有用的,
 和最讨人喜欢的。

绿色说:
“显然,我是最重要的。我是生命和希望的标志。我被选作青草,树木以及叶子的颜色。没有了我,所有的动物都会死去。展望田野吧,你会看到,到处都有我。”

蓝色打断了它的话:
“你只考虑了地上,想想天空和海洋吧。水才是生命的基础呀,云彩把水分从深邃的大海带到了天空。天空给了人们空间、和平和宁谧。没有我的和平,你们将不复存在。”

黄色咯咯地笑出了声:
“你们都太严肃了。我给这个世界带来了笑声、欢乐和温暖。太阳是黄色的,月亮是黄色的,星星是黄色的,每一次你看向日葵的时候,整个世界都开始欢笑。没有我就没有快乐。”

橙色马上开始自吹自擂: 
“我可是健康和力量的颜色。我可能比较稀少,但是我非常宝贵,因为我满足了人们生活的需要。我携带了大多数重要的维他命。想想胡罗卜、南瓜、柑橘、芒果和番木瓜。我并不经常出没在天空,但日出或日落我在天际登场时,我的美丽足以惊世,没有人还会想起你们。”

红色再也忍不下去了,他喊道:
“我,是你们所有人的主宰。我是血液——生命的血液!我是危险和勇敢的颜色。我愿意为了一个目标而斗争。我把烈火带入血液。没有了我,地球会象月亮一样变得空虚。我是激情和爱的颜色,是红玫瑰、猩猩木和罂粟。

紫色站起身来:
他非常高,说起话来风度十足:“我是王权和力量的象征。国王、酋长、主教都选择了我,因为我象征着权威和智慧。人们不会对我提出疑问,他们只能聆听和服从。”

最后,靛青说话了,他的声音比其他人都轻,但却比其他人都斩钉截铁:
“想想我吧。我是沉默的颜色。你们几乎注意不到我,但是如果没有我,你们全都会变得肤浅。我代表着思想和反省,代表者黎明的微光和深邃的海水。你们需要我来平衡和比较,来祈祷和获求内心的安宁。”

这样一来,颜色们就不停地自夸,每个人都深信自己无比优越。他们的争吵声越来越大。突然,电闪雷鸣。雨无情地倾盆而下。颜色们惊恐地蜷缩起来,彼此挤在一起捱过着恐怖的时刻。

在一片喧嚣声中,雨开始说话了:
“你们这些愚蠢的颜色,彼此相互争斗,每个人都想支配别人。你们难道就不知道每个人都是天造地设,都是独一无二,彼此不同的吗?携起手来吧。”

颜色们按照着雨的话,团结在一起,携起手来。

雨接着说:
“从现在开始,每次下雨的时候你们都要变成一个巨大的彩色弓形横跨天空,以证明你们能够和平相处。

彩虹就是未来希望的标志。”所以,每当大雨冲刷这个世界时,彩虹都会出现在天空,让我们记住彼此要珍惜。

Sunday, July 5, 2009

Sand and Stone - 沙与石




Sand and Stone

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey, they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, he wrote in the sand:

   Today my best friend slapped me in the face.

They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but his friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

   Today my best friend saved my life.

The friend, who had slapped and saved his best friend, asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand, and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand, where the winds of forgiveness can erase it away, but when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.

Learn to write your hurts in the sand and to carve your blessings in stone.


沙与石


有一则阿拉伯的传说:两个朋友在沙漠中旅行,旅途中他们为了一件小事争吵起来,其中一个还打了另一个一记耳光。

被打的人觉得深受屈辱,一个人走到帐篷外,一言不语地在沙子上写下:“今天我的好朋友打了我一巴掌。”

他们继续往前走,一直走到一片绿洲,停下来饮水和洗澡。在河边,那个被打了一巴掌的人差点被淹死,幸好被朋友救起来了。

被救起之后,他拿了一把小剑在石头上刻下了:“今天我的好朋友救了我一命。”
他的朋友好奇地问道:“为什么我打了你后,你要写在沙子上,而现在要刻在石头上呢?”

他笑着回答说:“当被一个朋友伤害时,要写在易忘的地方,风会负责抹去它;相反,如果被帮助,我们要把它刻在心里的深处,那里任何风都不能磨灭它。”

真正的朋友的伤害也许是无心的,帮助却是真心的,忘记那些无心的伤害,铭记那些对你的真心帮助,你将会发现这世上真心的朋友不断多起来。

A Friend ...


    A Friend ...

   (A)ccepts you as you are
   (B)elieves in "you"
   (C)alls you just to say "HI"
   (D)oesn't give up on you
   (E)nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts)
   (F)orgives your mistakes
   (G)ives unconditionally
   (H)elps you
   (I)nvites you over
   (J)ust "be" with you
   (K)eeps you close at heart
   (L)oves you for who you are
   (M)akes a difference in your life
   (N)ever Judges
   (O)ffer support
   (P)icks you up
   (Q)uiets your fears
   (R)aises your spirits
   (S)ays nice things about you
   (T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it
   (U)nderstands you
   (V)alues you
   (W)alks beside you
   (X)-plains thing you don't understand
   (Y)ells when you won't listen and
   (Z)aps you back to reality

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

The Story About Women



I would like to share the following article “About Women” with all my dearest friends, especially my girlfriends, who help make my life work. 
 

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother.

As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

"Don't forget your girlfriends," she advised, swirling the tealeaves to the bottom of her glass.

"They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you'll have, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.”

“What a funny piece of advice,” the young woman thought. “Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman for goodness sake, a grownup, not a young girl who needs girlfriends! Surely my husband and the family we'll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'”

But she listened to her Mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends and made more each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about.

As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life.


Times passes…
Life happens…
Distance separates…
Children grow up…Love waxes and wanes…
Hearts break…
Careers end…Jobs come and go…
Parents die…
Colleagues forget favors…
Men don't call when they say they will…

BUT…
Girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.

A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley, and you have to walk it by yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out.

When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still...

 
 

Friday, March 14, 2008

World Best Friends Week


 
Today, I receive similar sms again and again from my various friends, which make me feel so touched. 
 
I also sms to many of my friends too after receiving those sms.
 
There are some people, especially one lovely lady, who I consider as my friends, who I really like to sms this message to, to show them I really appreciate their friendships. However I do not have their phone numbers to reach out to them, thus the only way is to share the message here to all my friends out there. 
 
Hopefully that you can see this, as know that how much I really care for you.
 
 



Do you know the relationship between your 2 eyes?

They blink together, move together, cry together, see things together and sleep together.
Even though they never see each other, friendship should be just like that!
Life is like Hell without FRIENDS.


Your Heart is Your Love
Your Love is Your Family
Your Family is Your Future
Your Future is Your Destiny
Your Destiny is Your Ambition
Your Ambition is Your Aspiration
Your Aspiration is Your Motivation
Your Motivation is Your Belief
Your Belief is Your Peace
Your Peace is Your Target
Your Target is Heaven
Heaven is no fun without FRIENDS.
You are one of my WONDERFUL FRIENDS...
Its ‘World Best Friend Week’.






Saturday, December 22, 2007

Picture Perfect - Festive


Festive = merry, happy, joyful…
 


I have spent more than 6 hours the whole of Friday morning making this “card” for my friend.
 
People may laugh, What? More than 6 hours to make a card? You must be crazy….
 
Well, that’s me…why not?  This is my first time hand-making (with my clumsy big hands) a card for someone who I wish to share the joy and blessing with, in this festive season.
 
Starting from designing the card (more of impromptu, keep changing as and when I am doing it);  staring and picking the letters from a pile of mini alphabets macaroni, to form the words; gluing them onto the coloured ice-cream sticks; punching those tiny Xmas trees and stars, gluing them to form the big Xmas tree..etc., all these, for someone who is skillful in art and craft, that should not be a problem at all, but not me…
 
At end it turned out not as good as I was expecting, but...anyway I managed to complete it by 3.30 pm and quickly rushed downtown to hand-deliver it to my friend, else next few days I would not be around.  I did not dare to ask my friend to open it on the spot as too embarrassing...

Friday, November 30, 2007

A Friend Is Like A Good Bra ...




A Friend Is Like A Good Bra...
Hard to Find
Comfortable
Always Lifts You Up
Never Lets You Down or Leaves You Hanging
And Is Always Close To Your Heart !!!




Thursday, November 8, 2007

Hello !



 
How are you ?
Everything is all right ?
Like to hear from you !
Love to see you soon !
Obviously, I miss you...

So...


HELLO !
Good Day to Everyone !

Saturday, November 3, 2007

My Little Prayer


 

Every single Evening
As I'm lying in Bed
This tiny little Prayer
Keeps running through my Head
God bless all my Family
Wherever they may Be
Keep them warm and safe from Harm
For they're so close to Me
And God, there is one more Thing
I wish that you could Do
Hope you don't mind me Asking

Bless my computer Too
Now I know that it's not Normal
To bless a mother Board
But listen just a Second

While I explain to you, My Lord
You see, that little metal Box
Holds more than odds and Ends
Inside those small Compartments

Rest so many of my Friends
Some it's true I've never Seen
And most I've never Met...
Never shaken hands or

Ever truly hugged, and Yet...
I know so much about Them
By the kindness that they Give
And this little scrap of Metal

Takes me in to where they Live
By faith is how I know Them
Much the same as You
We share in what life brings Us

And from that our friendship Grew
Please, take an extra Minute
From your duties up Above
To Bless those in my address Book

That's filled with so much Love!
Wherever else this prayer may Reach
To each and every Friend

Bless each e-mail Inbox

And the person who hits <Send>
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