Saturday, July 25, 2009

兰思:交友好比飞不回来的BOOMERANG


 


你有玩过 BOOMERANG 迴旋鏢?

你晓得每次丢出去的 BOOMERANG,它总会返回原处让你接的吗?

你知道如果每次你丢出去的是一个无法盘旋回来的 BOOMERANG,你的心情会是如何?

是丢的方式错了?还是力道不足或过火了,使到飞出去的BOOMERANG,无法自动地盘旋回让你接?

交友好比玩BOOMERANG ,至少是我自己的状况,不是我一厢情愿把人家当朋友,别人就理所当然地一定地成为朋友的。这方面,我不晓得是我那里做错了,又或者是我做得不够,以至人家没感觉到诚意,又或者是我做得过火了,导致人家厌烦退步三尺?

我真的不知该怎样着手来经营这份所谓的“友情”(如果还算是的话),还是我根本一开始就彻底的失败了。



朋友。。。
不一定合情合理,但一定知心知意;
不一定形影不离,但一定心心相惜;
不一定锦上添花,但一定雪中送炭;
不一定常常联络,但总会放在心上!

曾读过有位作家汤姆·拉思的文章,他认为以下八种朋友是一生中必不可少的。

而你已拥有了哪几种了呢?

无论如何,即使你只拥有其中的一种,你也是比我幸福的。。。

因这一生我还不确定我是不是有了这些朋友,还是还在寻找中。。。


一。成就你的朋友:
他们会不断激励你,让你看到自己的优点。

 
这类朋友也可称之为导师型。他们不一定是你的师长,但他们一定会在某些领域具有丰富的经验,能经常在事业、家庭、人际交往等各方面给你提供许多建议。人生中拥有这种朋友会成为你最大的心理支柱,也常常会成为能够“左右”你的“偶像”。

二。支持你的朋友:

一直维护你,并在别人面前称赞你。

这类朋友可谓是“你帮我,我帮你”,相互打气,使得彼此多成为对方成长的垫脚石。在一个人的成长过程中,朋友的支持与鼓励是最珍贵的。当你遇到挫折时,这类朋友往往可以帮你分担一部分的心理压力,他们的信任也恰恰是你的“强心剂”。

三。志同道合的朋友:

和你兴趣相近,也是你最有可能与之相处的人。

与他们在一起,会让你有心灵感应,俗称“默契”。你会因为想的事、说的话都与他们相近,经常有被触摸心灵的感觉。和他们交往会帮助你不断地进行自我认同,你的兴趣、人生目标或是喜好,都可以与他们分享。这种稳固的感受“共享”会让你获得心理上的安全感,因为有他们,你更容易实现理想,并可以快乐地成长。

四。牵线搭桥的朋友:
认识你之后,很快把你介绍给志同道合者认识。


这类朋友是“帮助型”的朋友。在你得意的时候,他们的身影可能并不多见;在你失意的时候,他们却会及时地出现在你面前。他们始终愿意给予你最现实的支持,让你看到希望和机会,帮助你不断地得到积极的心理暗示。

五。给你打气的朋友:

好玩、能让你放松的朋友。

有些朋友,当我们有了心事,有了苦恼时,第一个想要倾诉的对象就是他们。这样的朋友会是很好的倾听者,让你放松,在他们面前,你没有任何心理压力,总能让你发泄出自己的“郁闷”,让你重获平衡的心态。

六。开阔眼界的朋友:

能让你接触新观点、新机会。

这类朋友对于人生也是必不可少。他们可谓是你的“大百科全书”。这类朋友的知识广、视野宽、人际脉络多,会帮助你获得许多不同的心理感受,使你成为站得高、看得远的人。

七。给你引路的朋友:

善于帮你理清思路,需要指导和建议时去找他们。

这类朋友是“指路灯”。每个人都有困难和需要,一旦靠自己力量难以化解时,这类朋友能最及时、最认真地考虑你的问题,给你最适当的建议。在你面对选择而焦虑、困惑时,不妨找他们聊一聊,或许能帮助你更好的理顺情绪,了解自己,明确方向。

八.陪伴你的朋友:

有了消息,不论是好是坏,总是第一个告诉他们。他们一直和你在一起。

这种朋友的心胸像大海、高山一样宽广,不管何时找他们,他们都会热情相待,并且始终如一地支持你。他们是能让你感到满足和平静的朋友,有时并不需要他们太多的语言,只是默默地陪着你,就能抚平你的心情。


 




兰思:放下。执著


最近听于玲的节目做测试,都相当的准确。的确,我是个有原则的人,凡事要求达到十全十美,对于负责任的态度也较一般人来得强硬些,有些顽固。而且,原来还是一个性情中人,任何事感动都会痛哭流涕。也一个很怕寂寞的人,一旦寂寞,悲伤的情绪就会涌上来,一个人独处发呆。

从小还以为对某件事抱着执著的心态,坚持自己的信念是好的。。。但随着年龄增长,却反而要学会如何放下执著,将自己抽离出来,找回原来的自己,这是不是很矛盾?

这个世间,所有一切的人与事,全都是虚假的,不是真的。特别是人与人之间的相处,我对人家好,一心一意把人家当朋友,人家并不以为然,根本并不把我当朋友看待,也许被人家蒙在鼓里看不起,还不晓得地沾沾自喜,这一切我没一丝的怨意,所以没有什么好执着的,还是学会一个人独处,学会孤独,静下心来,走进自己,了解自己的心。

我尝试走在阳光里,但我毕竟还是失败了,我想我还是属于黑夜的。黑暗是必然的,不变的,我再度拥抱它,回归宁静的夜晚,感觉自己的存在,听自己的心跳。。。

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

给灵魂一对向上的翅膀



给灵魂一对向上的翅膀

安东尼奥在任纽约市长时,有一件事一直烦恼着他,那就是纽约地铁站的偷盗和抢劫现象十分猖獗。

日有所思,夜有所梦。

一天,安东尼奥梦见了上帝,便问:
「一个人的灵魂堕落了,只有把他打入地狱吗?」
「孩子,天堂的门永远是开着的。」上帝答。
「那怎样把那些堕落的灵魂引入天堂呢?」
「去给他们的灵魂一对向上的翅膀吧。」


也就是这个梦,给安东尼奥以启发,他采取的办法不再是暴力,而是在地铁站里不停地播放贝多芬、莫扎特的古典音乐,其中《圣母颂》是播放次数最多的音乐。

这种方法收到了神奇的效果,地铁站内多发的抢劫、偷盗行为大为减少,发案率创下历届政府最低。

天堂的门永远是开着的,只要我们用真善美做引导,堕落的灵魂也能生出向上的翅膀。
 

兰思:败犬 - 为什么那么贬低自己?



前阵子从网上收听于玲的“随心所欲”节目,谈到近期很In的话题“败犬”,并聊起一位女性朋友眼看着周遭的朋友一个一个都找到伴侣,有归宿了,觉得有点颓丧纳闷,为什么自己还是孤家寡人一个。她的心情我少许能体恤,因也是过来人,也曾同样经历过这个阶段。

如果我认识那位朋友,我真的很诚恳地想简短地告诉她:
“其实你还很年轻,不必太担心,一切顺其自然,随缘。God has a plan for your life。。。If God has called you to be single,then accept it. If he has not called you to be a lifetime of singleness, then keep praying the right person will come into your life  sooner or later. 最最重要的是,千千万万不要为了结婚而结婚,因为 there is something far worse than being unmarried。。。that is,being married unhappily。”

因媒体和影视作品的炒作,“败犬”二字频频出现。
何谓“败犬”?
“败犬”这个词是出自于日本女作家酒井顺子写于2003年底的畅销书——《败犬的远吠》的缘故。
她认为:
女人只要过了适婚年龄,即使她美丽又能干,还是单身,就是"败犬"!
女人只要到了适婚年龄,即使她平庸又无能,只要结婚,就是"胜犬"!

我却不认同她的说法。为什么那么贬低自己女人呢?难道真的不结婚就是注定是失败者,结了婚就一定是胜利者吗?

这只是日本传统社会对于女性的二分法思考,女人就应该结婚生子,三从四德地呆在家相夫教子。但在现今社会里,随着女性劳动率提升,这已经很难行得通了。

以下是在网上看到败犬的几个特征:
= 可以靠自己的力量达到某种程度的收入。全心投入工作,离婚姻也越来越远。
= 很在意与异性邂逅的方式。喜欢自由恋爱更胜于相亲,因为败犬将自己的价值感与被他人喜爱、受欢迎的程度划上等号。
= 兴趣狂热(舞蹈、旅行、乐器、手工艺成瘾症)。
= 三十岁世代所发起的日本文化回归现象兴盛。因为经济不虞匮乏,对许多原本年纪较大时才有金钱与时间余裕去做的事,也能即刻去做了。
= 装扮既不寒酸也不邋遢,斥资不菲、有品味正是最典型的败犬装扮。
= 跟那些与社会目光几乎绝缘的家庭主妇不同,败犬长期处于「被观察」的状态,并在社会目光的注视下活到现在,因此练就一身完美的装扮工夫。
= 生活模式类似老年人。
= 既可怕又天真。嫉妒年轻人。

Anyway,不妨去看看世界各个城市的离婚率,再重新思考谁才是真正的失败者,谁才知真正的胜利者也无妨。。。


Friday, July 10, 2009

The Color of Friendship - 友谊的颜色



The Colour of Friendship

Once upon a time the colours of the world started to quarrel.
All claimed that they were the best.
The most important.
The most useful.
The favourite.

Green said:
"Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and of hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would die. Look over the countryside and you will see that I am in the majority."

Blue interrupted:
"You only think about the earth, but consider the sky and the sea. It is the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. The sky gives space and peace and serenity. Without my peace, you would all be nothing."

Yellow chuckled:
"You are all so serious. I bring laughter, gaiety, and warmth into the world. The sun is yellow, the moon is yellow, the stars are yellow. Every time you look at a sunflower, the whole world starts to smile. Without me there would be no fun."

Orange started next to blow her trumpet:
"I am the colour of health and strength. I may be scarce, but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. I carry the most important vitamins. Think of carrots, pumpkins, oranges, mangoes, and papayas. I don't hang around all the time, but when I fill the sky at sunrise or sunset, my beauty is so striking that no one gives another thought to any of you."

Red could stand it no longer he shouted out:
"I am the ruler of all of you. I am blood - life's blood! I am the colour of danger and of bravery. I am willing to fight for a cause. I bring fire into the blood. Without me, the earth would be as empty as the moon. I am the colour of passion and of love, the red rose, the poinsettia and the poppy."

Purple rose up to his full height:
He was very tall and spoke with great pomp: "I am the colour of royalty and power. Kings, chiefs, and bishops have always chosen me for I am the sign of authority and wisdom. People do not question me! They listen and obey."

Finally Indigo spoke, much more quietly than all the others, but with just as much determination:
"Think of me. I am the colour of silence. You hardly notice me, but without me you all become superficial. I represent thought and reflection, twilight and deep water. You need me for balance and contrast, for prayer and inner peace."

And so the colours went on boasting, each convinced of his or her own superiority. Their quarrelling became louder and louder. Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightening thunder rolled and boomed. Rain started to pour down relentlessly. The colours crouched down in fear, drawing close to one another for comfort.

In the midst of the clamour, rain began to speak:
"You foolish colours, fighting amongst yourselves, each trying to dominate the rest. Don't you know that you were each made for a special purpose, unique and different? Join hands with one another and come to me."

Doing as they were told, the colours united and joined hands.

The rain continued:
"From now on, when it rains, each of you will stretch across the sky in a great bow of colour as a reminder that you can all live in peace. The Rainbow is a sign of hope for tomorrow."

And so, whenever a good rain washes the world, and a Rainbow appears in the sky, let us remember to appreciate one another.


友谊的颜色
 
从前,世界上的各种颜色进行过一次争吵。

每一种颜色都说自己是最好的,
 最重要的,
 最有用的,
 和最讨人喜欢的。

绿色说:
“显然,我是最重要的。我是生命和希望的标志。我被选作青草,树木以及叶子的颜色。没有了我,所有的动物都会死去。展望田野吧,你会看到,到处都有我。”

蓝色打断了它的话:
“你只考虑了地上,想想天空和海洋吧。水才是生命的基础呀,云彩把水分从深邃的大海带到了天空。天空给了人们空间、和平和宁谧。没有我的和平,你们将不复存在。”

黄色咯咯地笑出了声:
“你们都太严肃了。我给这个世界带来了笑声、欢乐和温暖。太阳是黄色的,月亮是黄色的,星星是黄色的,每一次你看向日葵的时候,整个世界都开始欢笑。没有我就没有快乐。”

橙色马上开始自吹自擂: 
“我可是健康和力量的颜色。我可能比较稀少,但是我非常宝贵,因为我满足了人们生活的需要。我携带了大多数重要的维他命。想想胡罗卜、南瓜、柑橘、芒果和番木瓜。我并不经常出没在天空,但日出或日落我在天际登场时,我的美丽足以惊世,没有人还会想起你们。”

红色再也忍不下去了,他喊道:
“我,是你们所有人的主宰。我是血液——生命的血液!我是危险和勇敢的颜色。我愿意为了一个目标而斗争。我把烈火带入血液。没有了我,地球会象月亮一样变得空虚。我是激情和爱的颜色,是红玫瑰、猩猩木和罂粟。

紫色站起身来:
他非常高,说起话来风度十足:“我是王权和力量的象征。国王、酋长、主教都选择了我,因为我象征着权威和智慧。人们不会对我提出疑问,他们只能聆听和服从。”

最后,靛青说话了,他的声音比其他人都轻,但却比其他人都斩钉截铁:
“想想我吧。我是沉默的颜色。你们几乎注意不到我,但是如果没有我,你们全都会变得肤浅。我代表着思想和反省,代表者黎明的微光和深邃的海水。你们需要我来平衡和比较,来祈祷和获求内心的安宁。”

这样一来,颜色们就不停地自夸,每个人都深信自己无比优越。他们的争吵声越来越大。突然,电闪雷鸣。雨无情地倾盆而下。颜色们惊恐地蜷缩起来,彼此挤在一起捱过着恐怖的时刻。

在一片喧嚣声中,雨开始说话了:
“你们这些愚蠢的颜色,彼此相互争斗,每个人都想支配别人。你们难道就不知道每个人都是天造地设,都是独一无二,彼此不同的吗?携起手来吧。”

颜色们按照着雨的话,团结在一起,携起手来。

雨接着说:
“从现在开始,每次下雨的时候你们都要变成一个巨大的彩色弓形横跨天空,以证明你们能够和平相处。

彩虹就是未来希望的标志。”所以,每当大雨冲刷这个世界时,彩虹都会出现在天空,让我们记住彼此要珍惜。

I love Living Life... I am Happy - Nick Vujicic


I would like to share this video with all my friends. It touches my heart...

This remarkable man shows just how strong the human mind and body can be.

His name is Nick Vujicic.

Nick Vujicic was born with no limbs at all. For once, he did think that his life is meaningless, but he never give up. He adapted to his situation and found ways to accomplish tasks that most people could only do by using their limbs.  He enjoyed travelling around the world, surfing, golfing...living just like anyone of us or probably even better and more meaningful than us.

Without limbs, he still can get up.  How about most of us? When we fall in our life, after several attempts to get up but fail, we give up..

I like what he has said :
"What do you do when you fall down, Get up ...But sometimes in your life when you fall down, you feel like you don't have the strength to get up ... I'm down here with no arms no legs, it should be impossible for me to get back up but it's not.. You see, I would try 100 times to get up, and if I fail 100 times, if I fail and I give up, do you think i'll be able to get up? No! But if I fail and I try again, and again and again, but I just to let you know it is not the end, it matters how you going to finish, are you going to finish strong? and you will find that strength to get back up ..."

Nick Vujicic gives an inspiring testimony about overcoming circumstances in one's life, and this truly give me inspiration and motivation to carry on ..

If he can touch the lives of millions all around the world and take charge of his life, why can't I do it? why can't I get back up and take charge of my life ?




Thursday, July 9, 2009

Do you know Pankun and James ?


Pankun and James are a genius chimpanzee and stupid bulldog (great contrast), who appear on Japanese television show "Tensai! Shimura Dōbutsuen". Most of the segments feature Pankun and his bulldog friend, James performing simple tasks such as taking a train, buying shoes, making ramen, catching insects, harvesting rice, etc.

The show has also been translated into international versions in various places - India, Taiwan, Thailand and Hong Kong.

Among the various video clips, I like most is this video featuring Pankun and James working out in a gym with a group of school kids.






Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Excuse me, Are You Jesus? - 你是耶稣吗?

 
Excuse me, Are You Jesus? 

A few years ago a group of salesmen went to a regional sales convention in Chicago . They had assured their wives that they would be home in plenty of time for Friday night's dinner.

In their rush, with tickets and briefcases, one of these salesmen inadvertently kicked over a table which held a display of apples. Apples flew everywhere. Without stopping or looking back, they all managed to reach the plane in time for their nearly-missed boarding.

ALL BUT ONE!!! He paused, took a deep breath , got in touch with his feelings, and experienced a twinge of compassion for the girl whose apple stand had been overturned.

He told his buddies to go on without him, waved good-bye, told one of them to call his wife when they arrived at their home destination and explain his taking a later flight. Then he returned to the terminal where the apples were all over the terminal floor.

He was glad he did.  The 16-year-old girl was totally blind! She was softly crying, tears running down her cheeks in frustration, and at the same time helplessly groping for her spilled produce as the crowd swirled about her; no one stopping and no one to care for her plight.

The salesman knelt on the floor with her, gathered up the apples, put them back on the table and helped organize her display. As he did this, he noticed that many of them had become battered and bruised; these he set aside in another basket.

When he had finished, he pulled out his wallet and said to the girl, 'Here, please take this $40 for the damage we did. Are you okay?' She nodded through her tears.. He continued on with, 'I hope we didn't spoil your day too badly.'

As the salesman started to walk away, the bewildered blind girl called out to him, 'Mister.....' He paused and turned to look back into those blind eyes. She continued, 'Are you Jesus?'

He stopped in mid-stride, and he wondered. Then slowly he made his way to catch the later flight with that question burning and bouncing about in his soul: 'Are you Jesus?'

Do people mistake you for Jesus? That's our destiny, is it not? To be so much like Jesus that people cannot tell the difference as we live and interact with a world that is blind to His love, life and grace.

If we claim to know Him, we should live, walk and act as He would. Knowing Him is more than simply quoting Scripture and going to church. It's actually living the Word as life unfolds day to day. 


你是耶稣吗?

在不久前,一班商人到芝加哥开会,他们都向自己的太太说,一定可以赶及在星期五回家吃晚饭。当他们在机场赶着上机的时候,其中一位不慎踢倒一台正在摆卖的萍果,散满全地。他们并没有停下来,甚至未有回头望,因为飞机快要起飞了,他们不想错过登机时间。

突然,其中一位停了下来,一口深呼吸,聆听一下自己的内心呼唤,也尝试切身处地想一下那位女孩被人倒翻了所有苹果的感受。他决定留下,便与他的同事道别,并叫他们向太太解释,然后回去看看那位女孩。

他庆幸自己的决定是对的,因为那位十六岁的女孩原来是失明的!她正在一边哭泣,一边慌忙地执拾那些散在地上的苹果,途人都绕身而过,无人停下来,也无人关心她的处境。那位商人便蹲下来帮她拾起所有苹果,放回篮里,并为她摆好摊档。他发现很多苹果已经被弄到伤痕累累,便把所有弄坏了的苹果放在一旁,然后从口袋里拿出二十元给女孩:「这是赔偿那些弄坏了的苹果的,你没事吧?」女孩在泪光中点点头。

那位商人继续说:「希望我们没有令你太伤心。」当商人转身要离开时,女孩叫着他:「先生....」他便停下来,回头望着那双失明的眼睛。女孩继续说:「你是耶稣吗?」他犹豫了一回,便慢慢离开,赶搭下一班机,心里仍被这个问题困扰:「你是耶稣吗?」

有没有人误会你是耶稣? 这就是我们的使命,不是吗?活得像耶稣,好使人认不出我们与耶稣的分别来,去影响那些看不见衪的大爱、生命和恩典的人。认识衪不只是熟稔经文和上教会那么简单,让我们活出与赎价相称的生命,神会在我们的努力中帮助我们的。

Story About Light - 装满小屋的东西



Story About Light

Once upon a time there was a very wealthy business man who had 3 sons. He thought, "If I divide my estate into 3 equal portions, after some time equality will probably not remain. One of the sons will become successful, another mediocre, and still the third may find decrease in his wealth."

"Then surely jealousy will arise among the three, one thinking his brothers got the better share, or the like, and it is quite possible that after arguing over wealth, the boys will go their own ways, and the unity of my family will dissolve. Let me devise an examination by which I can see which is the most clever of the three sons, and then I will make him the manager of the entire estate on behalf of the family."

Reasoning thusly, he called his three young sons together and said, "Boys, I am giving to each of you one dollar. I want you to go to the market and purchase enough goods to fill up your rooms from floor to the ceiling and out to the four walls. For one dollar purchase whatever you like with which to fill your room."

Each taking his dollar, the three boys ran off in the direction of the market.

That evening father came home, and immediately went to the eldest son's room. "Well, what did you purchase?" he inquired.

"Father," replied the oldest son. "On the way to the market I found a gardener with a truck full of grass. For one dollar he brought the entire load here, and you see, I have filled my room from the floor to the ceiling and out to the four walls with grass."

Opening the door to his room, father peered in to see that the room was indeed filled with grass. He thought for a moment, and then said, "Perhaps we can get a goat or a cow to come and eat all of that grass. I will reserve my decision until I see what the other boys have brought."

He moved over towards the second son's room. "What did you purchase?" he asked.

"Father," came the eager reply. "I went into the market place and negotiated with the cotton seller and after an intense negotiation I succeeded in purchasing an entire room full of cotton. You see, Father, "he said opening up the door to his room. "I have filled my room from floor to the ceiling and out to the four walls with cotton."

Father thought for a moment and then said, "We'll be able to make some pillows and new comforters, quilts and mattresses. But let me reserve my decision until I see what your other brother has brought."

So saying, he moved off to the youngest son's room."What have you brought?" he asked.

"Father, " called the youngest son."Here is ninety cents, your change, he said offering a fistful of coins to the amazement of his elder.

Father looked at the shining coins in the palm of this hand and again requested "How did you spend the money? What did you buy?"

"Father," replied the youngest."I gave five cents for a small clay bowl, two cents for a piece of string, and another three cents for a little oil, and see, Father! I made a lamp, and filled my room from the floor to the ceiling and out to the four walls with LIGHT!"

Opening up the door to the room, Father saw that his room was most certainly filled with light, and with the greatest of joy he hugged his youngest son and proclaimed him the winner.

"Where there is light, there is wisdom as well. And with that wisdom you will manage the wealth of the family."

And now each of us must decide what our Father will find when he comes for our examination? What did we do with God's "dollar?" Do we fill the room of our minds with the things of the world, or do we maintain the light of wisdom burning brightly on the altar of divine inspiration?




装满小屋的东西
 
一位睿智的父亲,为了考验三个儿子的聪明才智,经过苦心设计,想出了一道试题。父亲分别给了三个儿子每人100元钱,要他们用这100元钱去买他们所能想到的任何东西,再将买回来的东西,设法装满一个占地超过100平方米的巨大仓库。

长子思考了很久,决定将100元钱全部去买最便宜的稻草。结果,稻草运回来之后,连仓库的一半都装不满。

次子稍微聪明一些,他将那100元钱买了一捆捆棉花,将棉包拆开,希望能装满仓库。但是依然装不满巨大仓库的三分之二。

小儿子看着两个哥哥的举动,等他们试过并失败之后,小儿子轻松地走进仓库,将所有的窗户牢牢关上,请父亲也走进仓库中。然后小儿子把仓库的大门关好,整个仓库霎时变得伸手不见五指,黑暗无比。这时,小儿子从口袋中拿出他花了1元钱买来的火柴,点燃也是用1元钱买的小蜡烛。

顿时,漆黑的仓库中充满了蜡烛所发出的光芒,虽然微弱,却是温暖无比。

大道理:一味地追求物欲或仅仅用物质来满足自己,那是无法满足空虚的心灵的。只有爱才能给人带来温馨,才能填满空虚的心灵。

兰思 - 自由 - freedom


我喜欢鸟儿
我喜欢鱼儿
我喜欢动物

我喜欢看在天空中自由自在飞翔的鸟儿
而不是一只只被困在鸟笼里的囚鸟
我喜欢看在荒野中逍遥自在奔跑的动物
而不是一只只被困在铁笼里的傀儡
我喜欢看在大海里自由窜游快活的鱼儿
而不是一只只被定格在水箱里的呆头鱼

人们为什么那么自私残忍
难道就因为你们是人类
自以为是最高等的群类
为了满足自己无理的欲望
就有权夺走别类的自由,主宰它们的命运吗?

为什么要有飞禽公园?
为什么要有水族馆?
为什么要有动物园?

鸟儿们是属于天空的
鱼儿们是属于大海的
动物们是属于大自然的

所以我
不喜欢飞禽公园
不喜欢水族馆
不喜欢动物园

每回去参观这些地方,都会有一个念头,很想打开所有的笼子和箱子,让它们奔向属于它们自己自由的天地。


I like birds
I like fish
I like animals

I like to see birds flying freely in the sky
Not those being captured in the cage
I like to see fishes swimming gracefully in the sea
Not those living in the limited area tank
I like to see animals running wildly in the jungles, in the woods
Not those being locked behind bars

Why are people so selfish and cruel
Just because you are human being,
You have the right to take away others' freedom?

Why should there be bird park?
Why should there be aquarium?
Why should there be zoo?

Birds belong to the sky
Fish in the sea they are
Animals belong to nature

Therefore, I
Do not like bird park
Do not like aquarium
Do not like zoo

Every time when I visit these places, I have the urge to unlock all the cages to set the birds and animals free so that they can return to where they suppose to belong.

Monday, July 6, 2009

我只看我所有的,不看我所没有的



我只看我所有的,不看我所没有的
 
她站在台上,不时不规律的挥舞着她的双手。仰着头,脖子伸得好长好长,与她尖尖的下巴扯成一条直线。她的嘴张着,眼睛眯成一条线,诡谲的看着台下的学生。偶然她口中也会依依唔唔的,不知在说些什么。基本上她是一个不会说话的人,但是,她的听力很好,只要对方猜中或说出她的意见,她就会乐得大叫一声,伸出右手,用两个指头指着你,或者拍着手,歪歪斜斜的向你走来,送给你一张用她的画制作的明信片。

她就是黄美廉,一位自小就染患脑性麻痹的病人。脑性麻痹夺去了她肢体的平衡感,也夺走了她发声讲话的能力。从小她就活在诸多肢体不便及众多异样的眼光中,她的成长充满了血泪。
 
然而她没有让这些外在的痛苦击败她内在奋斗的精神,她昂然面对,迎向一切的不可能。终于获得了加州大学艺术博士学位,她用她的手当画笔,以色彩告诉人「寰宇之力与美」,并且灿烂的「活出生命的色彩」。

全场的学生都被她不能控制自如的肢体动作震摄住了。这是一场倾倒生命、与生命相遇的演讲会。

「请问黄博士」,一个学生小声的问:「妳从小就长成这个样子,请问你怎么看你自己?妳都没有怨恨吗?」我的心头一紧,真是太不成熟? 怎么可以当着面,在大庭广众之前问这个问题,太刺人了,很担心黄美廉会受不了。
 
「我怎么看自己?」美廉用粉笔在黑板上重重的写下这几个字。她写字时用力极猛,有力透纸背的气势,写完这个问题,她停下笔来,歪着头,回头看着发问的同学,然后嫣然一笑,回过头来,在黑板上龙飞凤舞的写了起来:
一、我好可爱!
二、我的腿很长很美!
三、爸爸妈妈这么爱我!
四、上帝这么爱我!
五、我会画画!我会写稿!
六、我有只可爱的猫!
七、还有…….
八、……

忽然,教室内一片鸦雀无声,没有人敢讲话。她回过头来定定的看着大家,再回过头去,在黑板上写下了她的结论:「我只看我所有的,不看我所没有的。」

掌声由学生群中响起,看看美廉倾斜着身子站在台上,满足的笑容,从她的嘴角荡漾开来,眼睛眯得更小了,有一种永远也不被击败的傲然,写在她脸上。我坐在位子上看着她,不觉两眼湿润起来。走出教室,美廉写在黑板上的结论,一直在我眼前跳跃:
「我只看我所有的,不看我所没有的。」

十几天过去了,我想这句话将永远鲜活的印在我心上。 

地图的背面



地图的背面

牧师正在准备讲道的稿子,他的小儿子却在一边吵闹不休。

牧师无可奈何,便随手拾起一本旧杂志,把色彩鲜艳的插图--一幅世界地图,撕成碎片,丢在地上,说道:“约翰,如果你能拼好这张地图,我就给你2角5分钱。”

牧师以为这样会使约翰花费整整一个上午的时间,这样自己就可以静下心来思考问题了。

但是,没过10分钟,儿子就敲开了他的房门,手中拿着那份拼得完完整整的地图。牧师对约翰如此之快地拼好了一幅世界地图感到十分惊奇,他问道:“孩子,你怎么这样快就拼好了地图?”

“啊,”小约翰说,“这很容易。在另一面有一个人的照片,我就把这个人的照片拼到一起,然后把它翻过来。我想如果这个人是正确的,那么,这个世界也就是正确的。”

牧师微笑起来,给了他儿子2角5分钱,对他说:“谢谢你!你替我准备了明天讲道的题目:如果一个人是正确的,他的世界就会是正确的。”

大道理:
如果要改变你的世界,改变你的生活,首先就应改变你自己。一个人是正确的,他的世界就会是正确的。

Sunday, July 5, 2009

I Believe


I Believe...
Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them,
And less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...
Just because two people argue, doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue, doesn't mean they do love each other.

I Believe...
You can do something in an instant
That will give you heartache for life.

I Believe...
You should always leave loved ones with Loving words
It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe...
Money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe...
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the most of anything.

I Believe...
We are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I Believe...
Either you control your attitude
or it controls you

I Believe...
Sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down
Will be the ones to help you get back up

I Believe...
Sometimes when I'm angry, I have the right to be angry
But that doesn't give me the right to be cruel

I Believe...
It isn't always enough to be forgiven by others
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself

I Believe...
No matter how bad your heart is broken
The world doesn't stop for your grief

I Believe...
Our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are
But we are responsible for who we become

I Believe...
Two people can look at the exact same thing
And see something totally different

I Believe...
Your life can be changed in a matter of hours
By people who don't even know you

I Believe...
We don't have to change friends
If we understand friends change.

I Believe...
My best friend and I can do anything or nothing
And have the best time.

I Believe...
No matter how good a friend is
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that

I Believe...
True friendship continues to grow, even over
The longest distance. Same goes for true love

I Believe...
Even when you think you have no more to give
when a friend cries out to you
you will find the strength to help

I Believe...
it's taking me a long time
To become the person I want to be.
 
 

Sand and Stone - 沙与石




Sand and Stone

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey, they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, he wrote in the sand:

   Today my best friend slapped me in the face.

They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but his friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

   Today my best friend saved my life.

The friend, who had slapped and saved his best friend, asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand, and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand, where the winds of forgiveness can erase it away, but when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.

Learn to write your hurts in the sand and to carve your blessings in stone.


沙与石


有一则阿拉伯的传说:两个朋友在沙漠中旅行,旅途中他们为了一件小事争吵起来,其中一个还打了另一个一记耳光。

被打的人觉得深受屈辱,一个人走到帐篷外,一言不语地在沙子上写下:“今天我的好朋友打了我一巴掌。”

他们继续往前走,一直走到一片绿洲,停下来饮水和洗澡。在河边,那个被打了一巴掌的人差点被淹死,幸好被朋友救起来了。

被救起之后,他拿了一把小剑在石头上刻下了:“今天我的好朋友救了我一命。”
他的朋友好奇地问道:“为什么我打了你后,你要写在沙子上,而现在要刻在石头上呢?”

他笑着回答说:“当被一个朋友伤害时,要写在易忘的地方,风会负责抹去它;相反,如果被帮助,我们要把它刻在心里的深处,那里任何风都不能磨灭它。”

真正的朋友的伤害也许是无心的,帮助却是真心的,忘记那些无心的伤害,铭记那些对你的真心帮助,你将会发现这世上真心的朋友不断多起来。

Be Happy


 
No one can go back and make a brand new start.  Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
 
God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrows, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.
 
Disappointments are like road humps, they slow you down a bit but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards. Don’t stay on the humps too long. Move on!
 
When you feel down because you didn’t get what you want, just sit tight and be happy, because God is thinking of something better to.
 
When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means.  There’s a purpose to life’s events, to teach you how to laugh more and hot to cry too hard.
 
Never abandon an old friend, You will never find one who can take his/her place. Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older.
 
Remember the 5 simple rules to be happy

1 Free your heart from hatred
2 Free your mind from worries
3 Live simply
4 Give more
5 Expect Less

The House of 1000 Mirrors - 一千面镜子的小屋

 
 


The House of 1000 Mirrors

Long ago in a small, far away village, there was place known as the House of 1000 Mirrors.

A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house. He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles just as warm and friendly. As he left the House, he thought to himself, "This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it often."

In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to visit the house. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door. When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was horrified to see 1000 little dogs growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, "That is a horrible place, and I will never go back there again."

All the faces in the world are mirrors. What kind of reflections do you see in the faces of the people you meet?
 

一千面镜子的小屋
 
很久以前,在一个遥远的小村庄里,有一个小有名气的镶嵌有一千面镜子的小屋。
 
一只快乐的小狗得知此事,便决定前去拜访。他到达此地后,就欢快地跃上通往屋子门口的台阶。通过门口时,他竖起耳朵,快速地摇晃起自己的尾巴,令他惊讶的是,他发现自己正在注视着屋内的一千只小狗,他们同样地也在快速摇晃着自己的尾巴呢!他一笑,同时也迎来了一千个温馨和友善的微笑。离开这所屋子时,他自然自语地说道,“这真是一个神奇的地方,我会经常到这里来光顾的。"
 
同村里另一只心情郁闷的小狗,也决定去拜访一下千面镜子的小屋。他缓慢地爬上台阶,低着头,无精打采地朝屋里望去,他看到了一千个冷漠的眼神从背后望着他,他向"他们"狂吠着,害怕自己看见一千个小狗在背后朝他咆哮。离开时,他暗想,“那里真是个可拍的地方,这辈子不会再在来了。”
 
世上所有的人都是一面镜子,当你遇见每一个人时,你会流露出一种怎样的表情呢?
 

God Will Save Me - 上帝会救我




God Will Save Me

It had been raining for days and days, and a terrible flood had come over the land. The waters rose so high that one man was forced to climb onto the roof of his house.

As the waters rose higher and higher, a man in a rowboat appeared, and told him to get in. “No,” replied the man on the roof. “I have faith in the Lord, the Lord will save me.” So the man in the rowboat went away. The man on the roof prayed for God to save him.

The waters rose higher and higher, and suddenly a speedboat appeared. “Climb in!” shouted a man in the boat. “No,” replied the man on the roof. “I have faith in the Lord; the Lord will save me.” So the man in the speedboat went away. The man on the roof prayed for God to save him.

The waters continued to rise. A helicopter appeared and over the loudspeaker, the pilot announced he would lower a rope to the man on the roof. “No,” replied the man on the roof. “I have faith in the Lord, the Lord will save me.” So the helicopter went away. The man on the roof prayed for God to save him.

The waters rose higher and higher, and eventually they rose so high that the man on the roof was washed away, and alas, the poor man drowned.

Upon arriving in heaven, the man marched straight over to God. “Heavenly Father,” he said, “I had faith in you, I prayed to you to save me, and yet you did nothing. Why?” God gave him a puzzled look, and replied “I sent you two boats and a helicopter, what more did you expect than that?”




上帝会救我

在某个小村落,下了一场非常大的雨,洪水开始淹没全村,一位神父在教堂里祈祷,眼看洪水已经淹到他跪着的膝盖了。一个救生员驾着舢板来到教堂,跟神父说: “神父,赶快上来吧!不然洪水会把你淹死的!”神父说:“不!我深信上帝会来救我的,你先去救别人好了。”

过了不久,洪水已经淹过神父的胸口了,神父只好勉强站在祭坛上。这时,又有一个警察开着快艇过来,跟神父说:“神父,快上来,不然你真的会被淹死的!”神父说:“不,我要守住我的教堂,我相信上帝一定会来救我的。你还是先去救别人好了。”

又过了一会,洪水已经把整个教堂淹没了,神父只好紧紧抓住教堂顶端的十字架。一架直升飞机缓缓的飞过来,飞行员丢下了绳梯之后大叫:“神父,快上来,这是最后的机会了,我们可不愿意见到你被洪水淹死!!”神父还是意志坚定的说:“不,我要守住我的教堂!上帝一定会来救我的。你还是先去救别人好了。上帝会与我共在的!!”

洪水滚滚而来,固执的神父终于被淹死了……神父上了天堂,见到上帝后很生气的质问:“主啊,我终生奉献自己,战战兢兢的侍奉您,为什么你不肯救我!”上帝说:“我怎么不肯救你?第一次,我派了舢板来救你,你不要,我以为你担心舢板危险;第二次,我又派一只快艇去,你还是不要;第二次,我以国宾的礼仪待你,再派一架直升飞机来救你,结果你还是不愿意接受。所以,我以为你急着想要回到我的身边来,可以好好陪我。”

其实,生命中太多的障碍,皆是由于过度的固执与愚昧的无知所造成。

在别人伸出援手之际,别忘了,惟有我们自己也愿意伸出手来,人家才能帮得上忙的!

A Friend ...


    A Friend ...

   (A)ccepts you as you are
   (B)elieves in "you"
   (C)alls you just to say "HI"
   (D)oesn't give up on you
   (E)nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts)
   (F)orgives your mistakes
   (G)ives unconditionally
   (H)elps you
   (I)nvites you over
   (J)ust "be" with you
   (K)eeps you close at heart
   (L)oves you for who you are
   (M)akes a difference in your life
   (N)ever Judges
   (O)ffer support
   (P)icks you up
   (Q)uiets your fears
   (R)aises your spirits
   (S)ays nice things about you
   (T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it
   (U)nderstands you
   (V)alues you
   (W)alks beside you
   (X)-plains thing you don't understand
   (Y)ells when you won't listen and
   (Z)aps you back to reality

Why Drink Coconut Water?



Why Drink Coconut Water?

Coconut Water is naturally:
> Low in Carbs
> 99% Fat Free
> Low in sugars


Coconut Water contains organic compounds possessing healthy growth promoting properties that have been known to help:
- Keep the body cool and at the proper temperature
- Orally re-hydrate your body, it is an all natural isotonic beverage
- Carry nutrients and oxygen to cells
- Naturally replenish your body's fluids after exercising
- Raise your metabolism
- Promote weight loss
- Boost your immune system
- Detoxify and fight viruses
- Cleanse your digestive tract
- Control diabetes
- Aid your body in fighting viruses that cause the flu, herpes, and AIDS
- Balance your PH and reduce risk of cancer
- Treat kidney and urethral stones
- Boost poor circulation
 
Coconut Water Information
- complied by John Kohler

The English name coconut, first mentioned in English print in 1555, comes from Spanish and Portugese word coco, which means 'monkey face.' Spanish and Portugese explorers found a resemblance to a monkey's face in the three round indented markings or 'eyes' found at the base of the coconut. On the Nicobar Islands of the Indian Ocean , whole coconuts were used as currency for the purchase of goods until the early part of the twentieth century.

Coconuts are the fruit of the coconut palm, botanically known as cocos nucifera, with nucifera meaning 'nut-bearing.' The fruit-bearing palms are native to Malaysia , Polynesia and southern Asia, and are now also prolific in South America , India , the Pacific Islands , Hawaii and Florida . The light, fibrous husk allowed it to easily drift on the oceans to other areas to propagate.

In Sanskrit, the coconut palm is known as kalpa vriksha, meaning 'tree which gives all that is necessary for living,' since nearly all parts of the tree can be used in some manner or another. The coconut itself has many food uses, including milk, meat, sugar and oil as well as functioning as its own dish and cup. The husk was also burned for fuel by natives, but today a seed fibre called coir is taken from the husk and used to make brushes, mats, fishnets, and rope. A very potent fermented toddy or drink is also made from the coconut palm's sap. Coconut oil, a saturated fat made from dried coconut meat, is used for commercial frying and in candies and margarines, as well as in non-edible products such as soaps and cosmetics.

Although it takes up to a year for coconuts to mature, the trees bloom up to thirteen times a year, so fruit is constantly forming yielding a continuous harvest year-round. An average harvest from one tree runs about 60 coconuts, with some trees yielding three times that amount.

The coconut's name is a bit of a misnomer, since it is botanically classified as a drupe and not a nut. It is the largest seed known.

If you've ever opened a fresh coconut, you will have seen the thin, opaque almost clear coconut juice or water which has a slight almond flavor. Contrary to popular belief, this is not the coconut milk. However, the water is consumed as a drink fresh from the coconut by many, and it can also be used in recipes.


Here is some information about Coconut Water:

'It's a natural isotonic beverage, with the same level of electrolytic balance as we have in our blood. It's the fluid of life, so to speak.' In fact, during the Pacific War of 1941-45, both sides in the conflict regularly used coconut water - siphoned directly from the nut - to give emergency plasma transfusions to wounded soldiers.
 
Most coconut water is still consumed fresh in tropical coastal areas - once exposed to air, the liquid rapidly loses most of its organoleptic and nutritional characteristics, and begins to ferment.
 
Coconut Water is More Nutritious than whole milk - Less fat and NO cholesterol!
 
Coconut Water is More Healthy than Orange Juice - Much lower calories
 
Coconut Water is Better than processed baby milk - It contains lauric acid, which is present in human mother's milk
 
Coconut water is naturally sterile -- Water permeates though the filtering husk!
 
Coconut water is a universal donor -- Its identical to human blood plasma
 
Coconut Water is a Natural Isotonic Beverage - The same level we have in our blood.
 
Coconut water has saved lives in 3rd world countries thru Coconut IV.
 
Coconut water is the very stuff of Nature, biologically Pure, full of Natural Sugars, Salts, and Vitamins to ward off fatigue... and is the next wave of energy drinks yet natural!', according to Mortin Satin, Chielf of the United Nation's Food & Agriculture Organization.
 
Coconut water contains more potassium (at about 294 mg) than most sports drinks (117 mg) and most energy drinks.
 
Coconut water has less sodium (25mg) where sports drinks have around 41mg and energy drinks have about 200 mg!
 
Coconut water has 5mg of Natural Sugars where sports and energy drinks range from 10-25mg of Altered Sugars.
 
Coconut water is very high in Chloride at 118mg, compared to sports drinks at about 39mg.
Data is based on a 100ml drink.
 

Two Drops of Oil - 两滴油

 
 

Two Drops of Oil
 
A certain business man sent his son to learn about the secret of happiness from the wisest man in the world.

The lad wandered through the desert for forty days, and finally came upon a beautiful castle, high atop a mountain. It was there that the wise man lived.

Rather than finding a saintly man, though, our hero, on entering the main room of the castle, saw a hive of activity: tradesmen came and went, people were conversing in the corners, a small orchestra was playing soft music, and there was a table covered with platters of the most delicious food in that part of the world. The wise man conversed with everyone, and the boy had to wait for two hours before it was his turn to be given the man's attention.

The wise man listened attentively to the boy's explanation of why he had come, but told him that he didn't have time just then to explain the secret of happiness. He suggested that the boy look around the palace and return in two hours.

"Meanwhile, I want to ask you to do something," said the wise man, handing the boy a teaspoon that held two drops of oil. "As you wander around, carry this spoon with you without allowing the oil to spill."

The boy began climbing and descending the many stairways of the palace, keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. After two hours, he returned to the room where the wise man was.

"Well," asked the wise man, "did you see the Persian tapestries that are hanging in my dining hall? Did you see the garden that it took the master gardener ten years to create? 

Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?"

The boy was embarrassed, and confessed that he had observed nothing. His only concern had been not to spill the oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

"Then go back and observe the marvels of my world," said the wise man. "You cannot trust a man if you don't know his house."

"Relieved, the boy picked up the spoon and returned to his exploration of the palace, this time observing all of the works of art on the ceilings and the walls. He saw the gardens, the mountains all around him, the beauty of the flowers, and the taste with which everything had been selected. Upon returning to the wise man, he related in detail everything he had seen.

"But where are the drops of oil I entrusted to you?" asked the wise man.

Looking down at the spoon he held, the boy saw that the oil was gone.

"Well, there is only one piece of advice I can give you," said the wisest of wise man. "The secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world, and never to forget the drops of oil on the spoon."


两滴油


有个商人送儿子去跟世上最有智慧的人学习幸福的秘密。

男孩在沙漠中走了四十天,终于看到一座美丽的城堡竖立在山顶。世界上最聪明的人就住在那里。

然而,当这个男孩进入城堡的大厅,他并没有看见什么圣人,而是看到一派繁忙的景象:商人们来来去去,人们聚在角落聊天,一个小型乐队在演奏轻音乐,还有一张摆满美味食物的桌子。原来,圣人在跟每个人说话,男孩要请教他问题,必须等两个小时。

圣人专注地倾听男孩解释到这里来的原因,但是圣人却说他没有时间解释幸福的秘密。他建议男孩在城堡四周逛逛,两个小时后再回来找他。

圣人一边说,一边将一根装着两滴油的汤匙递给男孩,说:「同时,我要请你做一件事,你在四周逛逛的时候,拿着这根汤匙,但是不可以让里面的油溢出来。」

男孩在城堡里走上走下,眼睛却紧盯着汤匙。两个小时之后,他回到圣人身边。

圣人问: 「你有看到挂在餐厅墙上的波斯挂毯吗?你有看到园丁师傅花十年时间设计的花园吗?你有注意到藏书室里的羊皮纸文稿吗?」

男孩很尴尬,坦承什么也没注意到。他唯一关心的是圣人交代他的事情:不要让油从汤匙里溢出来。

圣人说:「那么你再回去欣赏城堡里奇特的东西,如果你不熟悉一个人的房子,你就不能信任他。」

男孩松了一口气,拿起汤匙,再度探索这座城堡。

这次他仔细地观看天花板和墙上的艺术品。他也参观花园,眺望四周的高山,欣赏美丽的花朵,以及圣人高雅品味下精心挑选的每样东西。

男孩一回到圣人面前,就向圣人详述他所看到的每样东西。

圣人问:「但是我托你保管的油在哪里?」

男孩低头看着手中的汤匙,他发现油都不见了。

这个最有智慧的人说:「我只能给你一的建议,幸福的秘密就是观察世界上所有令人惊奇的事物,但是,绝不能忘记汤匙里的油。」

要懂得享受人生,但也不要忘了本分。